Friday and missed opportunities  

aflower2c 45F  
5967 posts
7/12/2019 4:30 pm
Friday and missed opportunities


Yes I understand this isnt the site for fun, flirty, things,  

But do you ever have that moment where you think back a particular conversation with someone, and realize you "missed that moment" where you could have picked up on the obvious hints, suggestions, flirts, eye contact even! 
You could have taken the bait that was laid and just taken that next step and asked them for a drink. 


There was a time when I would easily ask them first, but when you are surrounded by married/attached men (and not all are open and upfront about the fact they are NOT available, shocking I know) it makes you a little gun shy. 
This is how I learned that its mainly attached men that will with women like me.  
Totally not fair to me, but I've learned to just ask other people about the guy or do some online looking first (faceybook or whatever). Takes all the spontaneity out of chatting up men. 

Occasionally if I'm unsure about his marital status/level of attachment, I will leave reall big signs that I am interested in grabbing a drink later or that I'm very much single. And if its crickets from him... if he doesn't make the first move now I just take it as a 'not interested' and I remove him from thought. Lol


But, sexy bloggers, 
Have you missed that opportunity? But only figured it out afterwards, or thought you may get another good opportunity at that time?

You know the one where the gate was left open but you didn't go through it. And you didnt seize that golden moment

It happens all the time with and messages because you can not tell the subtlety, nuanced body language ... humor and innuendo does not translate well in short form . 

So yes I'm asking about real life scenarios and experiences.

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


aflower2c 45F  
13611 posts
7/12/2019 4:32 pm

Yes I understand this isnt the site for fun, flirty, things,

But do you ever have that moment where you think back to a particular conversation with someone, and realize you "missed that moment" where you could have picked up on the obvious hints, suggestions, flirts, eye contact even!
You could have taken the bait that was laid out and just taken that next step and asked them out for a drink.


There was a time when I would easily ask them out first, but when you are surrounded by married/attached men (and not all are open and upfront about the fact they are NOT available, shocking I know) it makes you a little gun shy.
This is how I learned that its mainly attached men that will chat with women like me.
Totally not fair to me, but I've learned to just ask other people about the guy or do some online looking first (faceybook or whatever). Takes all the spontaneity out of chatting up men.

Occasionally if I'm unsure about his marital status/level of attachment, I will leave reall big signs that I am interested in grabbing a drink later or that I'm very much single. And if its crickets from him... if he doesn't make the first move now I just take it as a 'not interested' and I remove him from thought. Lol

But, sexy bloggers,
Have you missed that opportunity?
You know the one where the gate was left open but you didn't go through it. And you didnt seize that golden moment


It happens all the time with text and messages because you can not tell the subtlety, nuanced body language ... humor and innuendo does not translate well in short form text.
So yes I'm asking about real life scenarios and experiences.

Little miss flower

Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.


bitchkitty2017 66F  
4208 posts
7/12/2019 4:39 pm

lol the only opportunity missed here is the long distance messages i get .there isnt enough local guys on here to make a meeting worthwhile and the fwb material well lol oddly are not into much of fwb unless its more than one so i dont bother too much chatting or even dreaming of a missed chat ...I found a great guy on another site who is probably the best ever ..true to the fwb siutation as i am ...i feel lucky...we dont get together very often because of his work but when we do ..wowzers..!!


aflower2c replies on 7/12/2019 6:02 pm:
I know right! Guys claim to want regular sex but when it comes to fwb/casual partners they totally drop the ball! It became soo frustrating that I am forced into looking for a real relationship vs a casual partner(s).

nymphwanted2 55M
48 posts
7/12/2019 4:44 pm

the distance thing with this site is the biggest issue, as far a married or attached people (which I am not) it doesn't take long to figure that out, especially when you ask up front. lol


aflower2c replies on 7/12/2019 6:03 pm:
I'm asking about real life interactions not online.

Bud_Bot 43M
133 posts
7/12/2019 4:47 pm

Yes, I have missed out on several opportunities in real life. I need it spelled out for me. I do not catch on to the subtle or huge hints given to me. Just the way it goes though. Hope you are having a great Friday!


aflower2c replies on 7/12/2019 6:05 pm:
I have asked men upfront before and most times they where more taken aback instead of flattered. Mainly because they dont see me as female due to not being a cheerleader. Lol

doggydog65 55M
26 posts
7/12/2019 4:55 pm

U have a nice rack and body..so what's your problem


aflower2c replies on 7/12/2019 6:05 pm:
Location

BiggLala 47F  
26041 posts
7/12/2019 5:15 pm

Not really, but I do have those moments where I wonder IF it was really an opportunity missed. Then, reality hits and I find out the flirting was all in fun, no genuine intent, just dude's way of having a few laughs. Yep, I also get chatted up by married/attached men, or ones I would not otherwise be attracted to.

I stopped asking guys out ( IRL ) a long time ago, 15 years or so. Been a couple years since I stopped on here.

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aflower2c replies on 7/12/2019 6:07 pm:
Thats always the tricky one, figuring out his intent. Some guys I know are just naturally flirty, but I have also been a target of malicious behavior.

But lessons learned on when men approach me, typically they are attached and heard something about me like "kinky chicks are easy and have no morals"...

cok4pus 58M
16 posts
7/12/2019 5:17 pm

I agree that most I chat with aren't local. Those that are local don't seem to respond. So are they bots that japaneseadultgirlfriend.com has put on here to make it look like there are people in my area? I am starting to believe that this site does that.


aflower2c replies on 7/12/2019 6:08 pm:
I asked about real life interactions not online.

Funpleaser70 48M
22 posts
7/12/2019 5:35 pm

I missed many great opportunities In my life as I was too shy or nervous. Seize the day - life it too short.


aflower2c replies on 7/12/2019 6:09 pm:
Men can be hella judgemental when a woman like me approaches first. Plus he's apt to freak out and publicly humiliate me because someone like me dared hit on him!

So ya, it can be tough for women also.

Paulxx001 62M
9353 posts
7/12/2019 5:51 pm

Missed opportunity? 🤔
Naw... things weren't right. I might have had a conversation that may have gone further if I'd pushed it.
Missed.... it? Naw..
So many others to look forward to
.. and it teaches me a lesson to be prepared... 😊

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aflower2c replies on 7/12/2019 6:10 pm:
Lots of options then. Ya that's what I was thinkin, men have far more options in women then they like to gripe about. Lol

1bighammer1000 54M
3067 posts
7/12/2019 6:54 pm

I am pretty slow, I don't see the hints even after they are pointed out to me. Ha ha

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aflower2c replies on 7/12/2019 10:42 pm:
Even when my hard hat is right beside you on the console with a big'ol sticker that say yes I'm single

dabrown33 45M
619 posts
7/12/2019 8:04 pm

Maybe. I don't know because I never saw them again.

Actually i did find out about one, and it turns out it wasn't a missed opportunity. This goes all the way back to HS. I had a massive crush on a girl in my Choir class. Mainly I had a crush on her because she would actually talk to me, which was an entirely new concept to the 9th grade me. But, then as is now, my almost paralyzing social anxiety limited contact to her initiating any conversation. Then she got a boyfriend, broke up and got another, repeat. One of those boyfriends was also in our Choir class but was a grade or 2 ahead, I don't really remember. Oddly she'd still been a bit flirty with me, especially at choir camp (I quote: "I bet you'd love it if i came to visit at night"), but caused a bit of a scandal getting caught with him in the girls bunkhouse after hours. They lasted the whole spring for Freshmen year through the winter of Sophomore year, breaking up a week or so before valentines day.

He cornered me in the lunchroom asking me who I was taking to the Valentines day dance (no one, I couldn't gather the courage to ask if I'd had a gun to my head) and said why don't I take that pretty girl (my crush's name). For years I thought maybe she had let a few hints slip but being a girl wasn't going to ask directly to used her newly minted ex to do the asking.

I got my answer 25 years later when I point blank asked her when we briefly reconnected via the book of faces. She was quite pissed off that the guy had dared try setting her up with anyone, that SHE was the one that broke it off with him, because she'd found someone better.

So no, it wasn't a missed opportunity, but maybe a dodged bullet. 25 years later she still holds grudges against a dozen former classmates that wronged her. I don't even remember the NAMES of the classmates that poked fun of me in HS.

There have been others. I really missed one I think back in Dubai in 1995. Was at a bar with my Shipmates (me being the non drinker even then, basically the designated walker) where we had gone to meet up with a couple Russian merchant sailors who were going to trade us a Soviet flag for an American one. They had shanghaied a couple female British sailors off the HMS Sheffield and were trying to drink them under the table. The 2 Brits seemed much happier with us 3 Americans around, and I'd gotten into a conversation with the smaller, cuter, and less married one. She was constantly putting herself down as being unattractive (she was very attractive, or at least very attractive to a 21 year old sailor) and I kept trying to compliment everything she said was bad. Hell, I didn't even care that she smoked like a chimney and swore... the fact that her BAC was probably so high that there might have been some blood in her alcohol stream notwithstanding, we still managed a decent conversation. Alas, my buddy wanted to visit the Souk (where sellers hawk their wares) so we left. By the time we got back to the bar, she had gotten so drunk she had been carried back to her hotel by some of her fellow Brit sailors. I had duty the next day, my buddies didn't and they met up with the same British sailors and she asked where I was. To this day, I still get turned on by women swearing in that uniquely British manner.

Or there's the women I meet at rock concerts. And never get their names. At a Halestorm concert last year I got chatted up by a couple younger (I mean, 30ish) women who were so far out of my league I cock-blocked myself. The 50 year old lady with lavender hair at the KoRN concert 2 years ago, I just talked about the music and she talked about how she didn't miss her ex. And whether Taylor Momsen is a bona fide musician. (considering that TPR was the reason I went to that concert...)

There were the 2 drunk women at the Alice Cooper concert, the ones that spilled their drinks in my lap. But they were hitting on my 21-year old friend more than me. They didn't realize that my friend's 61 year old father was with us, though, when they tried to buy her drinks. Awkward.

Oh, there was the chance for a free blowjob from one of the female sailors on my ship. One of those weird conversations that 20 year olds have when cooped up, I'd walked in on a conversation where a bunch of people were comparing how long it'd been- most were a month or 2. Not wanting to admit the truth, I just said I'd had none since HS (I was 2 1/2 years out of HS by that point). She said if I didn't get laid before my birthday (which was 6 month out at that point) she'd give me a BJ. Reality was, I was never going to ask, and I didn't.

Anyhow, that's my missed opportunity stories.

I suppose I'd freak out if a woman hit on me, because it's just not something I've ever experienced. Flirted at, been told by a couple that I needed to get laid, yes, but nothing so blatantly obvious that I'd catch the hint that THEY were interested.

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aflower2c replies on 7/12/2019 10:46 pm:
I have a whole book of failed tales from the badlands. Lol.
But drunks, yah I typically avoid them even when I was much younger. Mainly because I was married in my early 20's and divorced but also a single parent so life was too busy to deal with drunks...but I still many risks for potential sex.

proteus_2a 53M
7053 posts
7/13/2019 12:25 am

The flirty nuances, the relaxing moves,
and the laughter, are the best indeed my lady

Nothing beats the sparkle in the eyes of a partner,
on the exact moment he/she realizes that

Cheers, gorgeous, and keep the faith

P


aflower2c replies on 7/13/2019 6:11 pm:
Laughter seems key, if they are comfortable enough for a genuine smile...then maybe they are open to conversation. Lol

Leegs2012 46M
41593 posts
7/13/2019 9:37 am

Yes, it has happened to me. I just try to learn from those missed opportunities.


aflower2c replies on 7/13/2019 6:08 pm:
You can learn, but does it get easier to recognize?
Anything in particular that catches your eye? As I need bigger bread crumbs when sussing out a new guy whether he's interested or not.

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