Getting Attention! But From All The Wrong People  

remington2112a 53M
10 posts
11/8/2018 5:00 pm
Getting Attention! But From All The Wrong People


The search continues..

With more than 250 female friends surprised that getting more attention and offers to hook up, hangout, have sex, etc. from "MEN" than from any of my female friends. What's up with that???? There isn't even a mention in my profile of me having any interest in men, being bi or even bi-curious. But the offers just keep coming. It would be fantastic if even one of the offers was from an attractive female friend, but I haven't received even one of those yet. not sure why??

Flattered but quite confused.

BiggLala 46F  
24046 posts
11/8/2018 7:00 pm

1-Why would you have 250 'friends'?

2-Why would you keep anyone on your friends list that doesn't have potential to meet?

Sounds like you need to cull that list down a bit.
Oh, and being a standard member without alternative methods of contact impacts your ability to interact with your 'friends'. You're going to be waiting a long time if you think the women on your friends list will make the first move. Most women here will not.

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2Saltie2 61F  
403 posts
11/8/2018 7:13 pm

Guess for the same reason why us women get attention from men we don't want it from. Some don't read profiles. Some somehow miss parts of any preferences. Some think they are the exception. I do not have couples checked off as seeking. Also wrote no couples. Doesn't stop them from showing interest. Profiles mean nothing to all the men, women and couples that show interest. NOT A SINGLE ONE.

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lonlyforlove2 75M  
609 posts
11/8/2018 8:09 pm

BiggLala said it like it is...Why have such a list, no way you know anything about many of them , start to cull them down fast, if they haven't shown any interest in the last week, un-friend them.. them start making good friends..you have to have good friends before you have any fun.. If you want any fun, GOLD is the only way, as the saying goes, You get what you PAY for, and I can tell you the cost is almost nothing... way less than a cup of Starbucks a week!!!!


lonlyforlove2 75M  
609 posts
11/8/2018 8:13 pm

And Lala, not stalking you, just same place sometimes, LOL


redrockrascal 60M
18784 posts
11/8/2018 8:20 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    And Lala, not stalking you, just same place sometimes, LOL
Careful, Lala may end up stalking you

To the OP - you're acting like a "friend collector" not like a guy trying to meet.

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BiggLala 46F  
24046 posts
11/8/2018 8:23 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    And Lala, not stalking you, just same place sometimes, LOL
Haha, I know you're not stalking.
I like to think of the blogs as a small town, and we run into similar people from time to time.

Hey neighbor!


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BiggLala 46F  
24046 posts
11/8/2018 8:24 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    Careful, Lala may end up stalking you

    To the OP - you're acting like a "friend collector" not like a guy trying to meet.
No, YOU are the only one I stalk!!! YOU are my one an only. I told you you can't run...I mean quit me!

I'll love you, and hug you, and kiss you, and squeeze you, and love you, and...*takes breath before continuing*...

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Livin_my_Life14 48F  
248 posts
11/8/2018 9:03 pm

Well you look like a sexy stallion ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

Your profile does say Group... so, group means differently for each person. U mean group of woman - I think. But some guys might be hoping you mean group as in open to the possibility of getting a shot at your gorgeous self๐Ÿ˜›

Great job at taking such awesome care of yourself ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿป


s2ndegree 59M  
8250 posts
11/9/2018 12:35 am

You're just what their profile needed for them to compete with all the other friend collectors.

Using more than all the road!


Resident_Bitch 101M/101F  
8965 posts
11/10/2018 5:26 am

So, you're asking for LOTS OF FRIENDS......and invite them to send you invites.
Are you just a collector of friends/the numbers game......or are you actually looking for genuine friends? Those you want to interact with, and who knows, maybe meet.....
Some of us have Friends in our list who we have either met, or intend to meet one day if they are over here in the UK or we are over there in the US......personally, I wouldn't send an invite to someone who is just a 'collector'....so if I saw someone with LOTS OF FRIENDS I'd assume they'll have neither the time nor energy to build up an actual friendship.
I also would think it's a high possibility other women 40+, looking to meet, will also not bother with someone who has '20 yr old models' in their Friends list. How could we 'compete' them......

And if you're not getting to interact with your 'friends' due to being Standard member then maybe you need to try Gold, and reach out to genuine women rather than waiting for them to find you....


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