Long distance relationships...  

whoisagentj 49M  
485 posts
5/16/2019 7:05 am

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5/16/2019 1:20 pm

Long distance relationships...


I just had a lady from Texas message me to see if I would talk with her offline.

I guess I have to spell this out again, even though it's on my profile. *sigh*

I have no problems with talking with other people here from outside of my area, and I appreciate talking to everyone, because it's really interesting to talk to people from all across the USA and even the world. However...I've had people contact me from everywhere asking to get involved with me from hundreds, even thousands of miles away to start up a relationship. Trust me, I've done a long distance relationship before...and it didn't work.
The constant calling everyday, spending hundreds of dollars to travel to see that person, and the worst is thinking that person is faithful when in fact they are seeing other people and you don't know it until after the fact.

So for me, I'm trying to stay local to the area. Now...if you are planning to move to the Chicago area, or even visit for a while, I'm all for seeing you, spending time with you, showing you the area, hanging out, maybe even getting our freak on if there is an attraction between the both of us. But unless you are planning to permanently locate here to the Chicago area, I can't invest in a woman emotionally. It's not possible. I'm sorry, we can be friends, we can chat via the blog, but I'm not investing in a long distance relationship. From my experience, you have to put in an incredible amount of effort, and it has to be from both sides. When I did my last long distance relationship, it was me doing all the calling, me doing all the travelling, me buying everything, because I thought I was in love. When in fact it was mostly one sided. Rarely did she call me. Rarely did she come to visit me. Rarely did she buy me anything, send a card, or a letter, or anything. In short, it was me putting in most of the effort. And that's not fair to the other person in a relationship.

So with all due respect ladies, I appreciate you visiting my blog. I appreciate the attention. But at the same time...I'm not getting involved in another long distance relationship UNLESS...unless you have plans already to move to the Chicago area, which at that time I can emotionally invest in that person. I can't make it any more clearer than that.

Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...


Agent


FresnoWoman 48F
358 posts
5/16/2019 11:28 am

I travel so I don't have to host. Don't want to host if I don't know the guy well. But I won't travel very far either, *unless* it's an attractive destination I'd want to visit for sightseeing or entertainment.


whoisagentj replies on 5/16/2019 11:55 am:
I'll be honest, I haven't travelled in AGES! I need to start working on building up some time and money to go on a vacation of my own. I'm getting there...

bitchkitty2017 66F  
3764 posts
5/16/2019 7:49 am

lol teleportation would be cool but regeneration would be better for me growing another leg would be the ultimate joy...as for long distance i agree i did it and it ddn't work...Local long distance is better for me or just local..I don't spend any money or put my vehicle through the torturous rigors of long drives unless its to the city for appointments...some people don't have any concept of distance and wonder why? I know that many times they are not real...been there done that and not fun...stick to your guns hon ..if its local stay with that...its not easy looking for local but it will pay off...good luck


whoisagentj replies on 5/16/2019 10:32 am:
I don't mind driving a bit. Anything over an hour is too much for me. But women probably have it easier because they can say come on over and some guys would drive 3000 miles for that punanny. Women don't travel. Men travel. Unless that guy is Ryan Reynolds and then the role would be reversed.
But I do hope there is someone local for me. I just haven't found her yet.

whoisagentj 49M  
5762 posts
5/16/2019 7:05 am

Which I could teleport though, that would be a really cool power.

Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...


Agent


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