Weekend from heck  

whoisagentj 49M
692 posts
7/22/2019 6:07 am

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7/23/2019 7:46 am

Weekend from heck

Saturday was not a good day.

I was involved in a car accident. It wasn't a severe one, just a 5 mph bumper to bumper, but still, both the driver and passenger of the auto I hit were complete and total assholes. The passenger kept screaming and swearing at me telling me he was going to sue me, and kept telling me he was going to sue, and the driver, she was a complete bitch.

Needless to say I was a complete nervous wreck.

I felt like shit all day, and I didn't sleep a wink Sunday morning as I had panic attacks all night long.

Sunday was a tiny bit better, but I still felt like shit. Then my ex wife called me later that evening to tell me that her father was in the hospital for sepsis and pneumonia. Out of all her family members, he's the only one that actually talks to me after the divorce and he's actually a fairly half-way decent guy. And I normally don't medicate myself, but last night I could barely sleep, so I took a sleep aid and tried to knock myself out because I was afraid I wasn't going to sleep last night either.

Either way, the whole weekend was messed up. I even tried to see if I could get together with some friends and they all blew me off on Saturday and Sunday, so needless to say, it was a shit weekend all around.

And this week looks to be a busy one. Regardless, I'm a wreck. I don't know how I'm functioning right now. Between the accident, my mom's health, my dad's health, and everything else going on, I am barely hanging on at the moment. I hate feeling like this. I'm struggling to focus on the positive stuff in my life and I feel like I keep getting knocked down. How do you cope when you feel you life is barely functioning?

Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...


SexySexySophie 35F  
1595 posts
7/22/2019 10:05 pm

“I downed two 16 ounce glasses of orange juice this morning”

Oh wow. That might be just fine... but I surely hope you don’t have any issues with your blood sugar. OJ is a NO WAY if your BG ain’t in check. Just sayin’

whoisagentj replies on 7/23/2019 7:46 am:
Yeah, but I do love orange juice. LOL! Orange juice reminds me of happier times when I was a kid for Sunday breakfast and my indulgence was a large glass of orange juice. And then my dad would yell at me for taking half of the orange juice in a fake made up outrage, I'd drink it real fast and then he'd fake scream "That's being added to your diaper bill, young man!" My diaper bill is in the millions now according to last count by him.

thax013 42M
1089 posts
7/22/2019 6:27 pm

I became very adept at doing whatever it takes, but even I had to ask for help from my doctor last week.

The accident, screw them. A 5 mph dent is not worth all that shit. They only acted that way to make sure you claimed it was your fault, maybe also to try and get more money if you did not want the accident recorded. Or tgey are just complete assholes (or transferring their prior anger at each other onto you). In any way, it was extremely shitty towards you.

You needed to know about your ex-father in law. That was just life turning your Sunday into a harder one. Keep looking at your positives.

You have a good, stable job that you are good at. Kids that are doing good, and in good situations. A good caretaker for your parents. Those are the things that I know of, but I am convinced that you have many more.

Visit my blog if you want to at thax013 and thank you very much!

whoisagentj replies on 7/23/2019 7:42 am:
Thank you thax. Yeah, I'd file all of the above on the driver and the passenger. My insurance company has assured me that if they decide to sue, they'll let me know, but I hope that's not the case. I take ownership of when I'm at fault and the accident was my fault. But still, fuck 'em, their were assholes.

And I needed what you said. I had to assess myself and reaffirm that I am a good person that made a mistake on Saturday, and God was watching out for me that it wasn't a more serious accident. I'm trying so hard to get it together, and I needed that. Thanks man!

SexySexySophie 35F  
1595 posts
7/22/2019 10:59 am

    Quoting freetobeme9569:
    You start with a deep breath..You won’t find comfort in a bottle..A real “friend “ would understand your pretty stressed and try to help you..if nothing more than to simply hang out and talk..I hope things get better for you
Having one or two drinks might be slightly helpful. I would say more than that does not help and starts making things much much worse.

whoisagentj replies on 7/22/2019 1:50 pm:
Drinking won't help. I'm going on 31 years sober this August 3rd. Not going to throw away my sobriety just because I'm stressed.

SexySexySophie 35F  
1595 posts
7/22/2019 8:33 am

I don’t seem to have many problems when the shit is actually happening. It’s after that gets to me. I seem to be making it through when my mom passed away 2 months ago. And while starting a new job and planning a funeral I did it all. But now, I’ve spent the last several weeks in bed. I can’t get up it’s only for a few hours at a time.

Those people with the car accident are bastards. If you have people yelling at you like that in car accident, call 911 and drive away. Make sure you tell the 911 operator that it’s not a hit a run but that you are afraid of them because they were yelling. Of course, getting some kind of footage of the car and the situation would be idea before taking off.

The only things I have found that help me during these times are animals and yoga. There is a lake near where I live and walking in nature helps and feeding the ducks popcorn. If you don’t do yoga, a little stretching and breathing exercises before you go to sleep really help.

Adrenaline depletes vitamin C and that is why stress is so bad for you. Be sure to take a good amount of vitamin C during these times. And Magnesium helps with relieving stress and anxiety. Vitamin D helps with mood and well-being. Finally, fresh raw vegetables helps with depression and wellbeing also.

Going to church or a spiritual place might help. Or getting a massage if you can afford it. Or just talk to your doctor, sometimes they have some good suggestions and if they are compassionate, it goes a long way. Getting some talk time with a psychologist helps too. But sometimes finding the right one is an issue. For a situation as difficult as yours certainly makes sense to have some talk time with a mental health professional. Just to vent, keep things in check and they are often able to get you to resources you are probably going to have to access as you and your mom go through this.

I really wish this wasn’t happening to you. It makes me sad that you are going through this and I wish there was something more I can do. Big big Hugs for you. And take good cae of yourself.

whoisagentj replies on 7/22/2019 1:50 pm:
Well with all the stress I was under, that explains why I downed two 16 ounce glasses of orange juice this morning. And I think a massage might be in order, because my body is somewhat wracked with pain and I think its from the high amount of stress I'm under.

I might try that.

papis_baby_girl 41F
5121 posts
7/22/2019 7:56 am

Time for a doctor visit. Be open to what they would suggest to help you get over the hump, whether medication, yoga, stress management, etc. No shame in asking for help.

"The role of a writer is not to say what we all can say, but what we are unable to say."
-Anais Nin

"I am big, it's the pictures that got small!"
-Norma Desmond

whoisagentj replies on 7/22/2019 1:47 pm:
I feel you are right. I need to get a handle on this soon or this might overwhelm me.

freetobeme9569 49F  
63 posts
7/22/2019 6:57 am

You start with a deep breath..You won’t find comfort in a bottle..A real “friend “ would understand your pretty stressed and try to help you..if nothing more than to simply hang out and talk..I hope things get better for you

whoisagentj replies on 7/22/2019 1:46 pm:
Unfortunately, it didn't work out that way this weekend. Today is a bit better, because I'm trying to shut out the problems via work and it's working for the time being. I'm trying hard to get my focus back.

whoisagentj 49M
6035 posts
7/22/2019 6:07 am

Just trying to breathe....

Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...


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